How common is it to hold space for someone you care about? How many of us are really willing to let someone follow their heart when it takes them away from us?
Habits, routines and the simple joys of friendship are missed when people in our lives attend to their own growth as they pursue their desires for self-expression and adventure. Too often, we want to hold onto a relationship rather than hold space for it.
Frequently, a hostage situation occurs when one person's need for growth is to threatening and fearful to another. Gripping on to the relationship because of fear of change holds everyone hostage and ultimately, accomplishes nothing. Selfishly, we don't want to lose the time and experiences shared. When the person is significant to us, we miss them and feel their absence.
Yet, holding the space is a tangible sign of trust. I trust you to do what you need to do, I trust you to honor our relationship and I trust to you to come back and I trust that if you don't return it is for a good reason.
And, upon your return, so much new is added back into the rich soil of relationships providing new growth for all those connected in the web of friendship.
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