And, what do you believe? Not sure, what about a check-up?

If there is a center to our universe, it lies in what we believe. Thus, whatever transpires in our minds, materializes in our lives. Believing in the power to transform lives, to seek peace and to achieve goals all require two things:

1. Making a choice.
2. Giving ourselves permission to move past our insecurities and doubts. My grandson called those doubts, the "Cranking Noise". He just tells the Noise to go take a nap! It must work his knows all of US Presidents, in order. Just got his orange belt and best of the best in Tae Kwon Do. Like my grandson, we can tell our fears to take a nap and we can learn to invite, allow and accept, peace of mind into our circle of beliefs. Then we can dwell comfortably in the house of abundance, rather than the house of pain.

The Six Questions

Most of us have never asked ourselves these questions. We don’t necessarily learn the questions, or for that matter, the answers from our parents, teachers or friends. These questions take some time to really answer. So, go over them at least six times—going deeper each time. Ask yourself, how do you know what you believe is true? Ask yourself is that the way you really want to believe? Could you have it your way, how would it be if you were running the show? Also, ask yourself—am I willing to let go of any of these beliefs and perceptions, if they are not longer working for me?

1. What do you believe about trust??? When do you give it? When do others begin to trust you?
2. How do you measure success? Do you believe there is never a failure or do you believe there is rarely a success?
3. Does work have to be hard? Can it be fun? Can it be effortless?
4. What do you believe about time?? Is there never enough? Will you always have just what you need to get the job done?
5. Think about what you believe about relationships. Is there such a thing as a lifelong relationship? Is life a solitary event or something in between?
6. What role do play and relaxation have in your life? Is it important to start taking care of yourself first or should you be last on your list?

I have recently been doing this inventory. Like a check-up at the Doctor's office, I think we need to regular schedule time to conduct a beliefs check-up ans see how we spend our time and money...that usually tells us what we believe and gives us clues on what we need to change! Happy check-up. Keep in mind, the larger the gap between what we believe and how we act the more stress we experience!!

Holding Space and Gaining Experience

How common is it to hold space for someone you care about? How many of us are really willing to let someone follow their heart when it takes them away from us?

Habits, routines and the simple joys of friendship are missed when people in our lives attend to their own growth as they pursue their desires for self-expression and adventure. Too often, we want to hold onto a relationship rather than hold space for it.

Frequently, a hostage situation occurs when one person's need for growth is to threatening and fearful to another. Gripping on to the relationship because of fear of change holds everyone hostage and ultimately, accomplishes nothing. Selfishly, we don't want to lose the time and experiences shared. When the person is significant to us, we miss them and feel their absence.

Yet, holding the space is a tangible sign of trust. I trust you to do what you need to do, I trust you to honor our relationship and I trust to you to come back and I trust that if you don't return it is for a good reason.

And, upon your return, so much new is added back into the rich soil of relationships providing new growth for all those connected in the web of friendship.