I recently wrote about the decline of the gentleman, since that time I have spoken to people about this decline and continue to wonder how it impacts us all. The breakdown exists on all levels, girlfriends to boyfriends, husbands to wives, parents to children and from the lack of societal expectations. As I said before some women have lowered their expectations and men have forgotten (or never new how in the first place as it may seem).
If my father would not have done these acts of being a gentleman and my mother would not have pointed them out to me, then I would have never known that I was missing something (because they do not show manners in movies these days). I realize that because I was expected to do these things and now I expect myself to always show up I expect the same from others, perhaps unfairly.
Now we lack this basic characteristic in many men, and there is no clear villain, there is just a breakdown in a transfer of values from one generation to another and a society that let them pass. My question is now: how do we fill this void, how do we teach so many men to step up, act courteous and be the men that women deserve? And how do we teach women that they are missing something?
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Ian, Great blog! Glad to see you and mi madre got this going.
Now I have to participate in your blog for just one second...
The gentlemen in many cases has been assinated. I think it has to do more with the rate of divorce (50% of all marriages end in divorce the man tends to have to pay 1 day of alamony for every 2 days he is hitched at least in California a popular radio personality here in SoCal calls it Vaginamony where the man is basically paying for past sex)and and socio-economics (but that is for a later comment). Now that being said you know me personally so there are acceptions to every rule and the kids should always be taken care of especially when special needs are in play. But let's assume there are no kids... what is so romantic about having to kiss the ass of a person who tends to treat the nice guys like shit. While the nice guy who is the gentle man becomes the "gay" friend and the asshole gets laid, because the really and honestly wheather you are being a gentleman or a complete ass the goal is the same to get laid and women respond much more to the complete ass than the gentleman. I know I been there most of my high school days was consumed with being the nice guy and it just about never got me any where... until I was the asshole to some girl and long story short we met our senior year and have been together for 11 years with a wonderful little boy. But she never paid any attention until I stopped caring and was a complete ass. Truth be told no woman will ever admit it but they killed the gentleman by treating those who actually cared about them like a complete ass.
Push this stuff out there more in the blogosphere!!! You need comments, get a little more gritty stuff that people will disagree with and agree with. Ask more questions of your readers make them want to comment. You guys have something here you just need to push it out there a little more. And send out teasers in mass emails with a link to your blog. There are so many of these things you gotta stand out. Use pop culter references as well to make you point because our society has short memories and attention spans and they love to make fun and comment on cultural icons. Even though it might make you sick to even consider talking about Britney or some shit no hack millionaire. There is my 2 cents 10x's over.
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